'She’ll text me 'be there in 2 minutes' and still come out 10 minutes later': Employee leaves a chronically late coworker to fend for herself when their ride-share agreement makes them late for work for 2 months

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  • Woman going to work with a store-bought coffee
  • AITA for refusing to give my coworker a ride after she kept making me late
  • I (27F) work with a girl named Trina who doesn't have a car, so for the past two months I've been giving her rides to work
  • since we live near each other. At first it was fine, but she's *always* late. She'll text me "be there in 2 minutes" and still come out 10 minutes later,
  • sometimes with a coffee she clearly just made. I warned her that my boss already noticed my late arrivals. Last week I left
  • without her after she didn't answer my texts. She showed up an hour later furious, saying I "abandoned her" and that
  • I "should've waited because friends help friends." I told her we're coworkers, not friends, and that I can't risk my job. Now she's been cold
  • at work and telling people I'm selfish. My mom says I was too harsh and should've just told her earlier I was done giving rides. So.. AITA for finally saying no?
  • Duelce9121. You set an appropriate boundary/expectation for her. You let her know this was the expectation. She continued to ignore that expectation, and is now angry about the consequences?
  • NTA - your mom is not affected by Trina's actions, and therefore, (sorry) her opinion doesn't really matter.
  • CapableOutside.... How is Trinas' boss not on her for tardiness as well as yours? Your Mom can drive her to work if Mom wants to give her opinions
  • marla-M⚫ NTA "I am leaving at 8am. If you want a ride you will be there at 8am. Not 8:02. In fact 7:58 would be safest. If you are not there at 8am when I leave you will need to find another ride". Period.
  • Except after she's now treated you poorly I don't know if I'd even bother with it at all anymore
  • XOXOpandaXOXO . NTA. She's selfish for putting you in a position that jeopardizes your job. Tell her she needs to look for other arrangements and then tell the most gossiping coworker at work that she's been making you late to work since you've helped.
  • Risky-Biscuitss ⚫ You're totally safe here. Respect, not friendship, is at issue here. If she doesn't respect your time enough to be ready when you get
  • there, she needs to find another ride. She also made coffee rather than being honest about the "two minutes" nonsense! Family, that's not cool. You can't risk losing your job if your hustle isn't appreciated. Don't give up, buddy.
  • auscadtravel ⚫ NTA if you say be there at 730 she better be standing outside at 729. This is on her. Tell her your schedule has changed and you can't drive her anymore. Being late is rude and disrespectful.
  • You losing your job is a possibility. No more roses and start showing up a bit early to recoup your respect from your boss.

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